Congratulations LouBelle! That is good news and I hope this job will work out very well for you. I am also happy to hear you are feeling better mentally. It takes time for the meds to work but it sounds like you are on the right track. Keep up the good work!
Aunt Fancy
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New Job
by LouBelle inhey everyone.
so i left the old company behind, the one that wasn't paying me.
they still owe me a little bit of money but have them on record and signed documentation that i'll receive payment by the close of this month.
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New member!!
by Viva la Vida inthis is my first post even thou ive been lurking for some time.
i was raised in as a jw, and im still in because of my family.
since waking up i found meetings, assemblies and fs stressing and thought writing in here might be therapeutic.
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Aunt Fancy
Welcome Viva, take your time and it will all fall into place. I can't stress enough how important it is to read the history and Crisis of Conscience. Also reading Steve Hassen's books will help too. It is a long journey and I hope you can get out without losing too much.
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I know your all dying to wish me ...HAPPY BIRTHDAY....I just know it.
by smiddy inwho would have thought i would get this old, hang on.
drunk .
smiddy.
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Aunt Fancy
Happy Birthday Smiddy! I hope you have a wonderful day.
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Who I really am, my story on YOUTUBE!
by Gojira_101 inthe death of a jw and the birth of me the apostate.. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k2lwgowdpj8.
a huge thanks to my friend ray publisher (jwstruggle) for posting my video for me.
now that i am no longer held prisoner from the fear of watchtower, i can now help others!.
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Aunt Fancy
Shyla, I love your real name. I wanted to thank you for putting yourself out there. It was a very courageous thing to do and I am sure others will benefit from this. One thing that makes me sad is when young people give up their dreams of having a family for this religion. I really hope your dream of having a family will come true. You are fortunate you found out TTATT while you are young and can enjoy the rest of your life. My husband and I came out together too after last summers DC. Your parents are probably a little younger than we are but I know it is such a blessing that all four of you came out together. I too try not to use the cult language anymore but it is easy to slip back into it from time to time. I think it is wonderful your husband is going to college and your career is opening up new doors for you. It will get better and continue to do the positive things you are doing in your life to make it a better and happier life.
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Warwick project... I had no clue it was this big!!!
by sosoconfused inhttp://www.townofwarwick.org/wt_con/_appendix%20j.pdf.
of course i was aware that the new headquarters would be there but according to the above plans it is immense!.
253 acres???
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They made a deal not to preach!! That is pretty hypocritical. I am glad we stopped giving money before we quit. My husband spent years slaving for the RBC even supplying materials. He thought something fishy was going on but never knew until we left.
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Post 6: My brother turns on me now - Possible Legal advice
by sosoconfused inthis is a letter i received today with my brother turning on me based on something that was told to him by my crazy mother.
he works for me, yet has not spoken a word to me in months because he is a self-righteous little dick.. .
what i would like to know from someone who knows the law, is it possible i can sue him if he pressures people to not work with me because of my religious beliefs????
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Aunt Fancy
If I remember correctly you own the company. I would have him sign a paper before you give him his last check saying that he will not interfere with your business or go to any of your employees or something similar to this. It is such a shame you are going through this. I don't think there is anything in the literature that forbid people from working with someone ho is DA'd, DF'ed or faded. We have a few JW's that work for us and one that cleaned our home. I was so stressed about not keeping her because 1. She worked for us for years 2. I was afraid to trust someone else. Our therapist encouraged us to let her go because we didn't have the freedom in our own home. Well we did and we found a wonderful couple to replace her and they do a better job. The therapist kept telling us there are plenty of other good workers out there. You may find it a huge relief to have your brother out of the business. I am sure because of his attitude he makes it very stressful for you. There are plenty of good workers you can hire especially in this market that won't sit in judgement like the JW's do. Hang in there.
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Borg court: 3rd session & verdict
by sd-7 inso...the third and final session was pretty straightforward.
they basically asked some more questions about the first woman, before i got back with the woman who became my wife.
then they asked what seemed like nothing more than a customer survey of "how are we doin'?
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Christopher, I really enjoyed reading your story. You write very well but I have to say I admire you for doing what was right and taking care of your family. You went through a lot and yet you stayed with your wife and step daughter when everything was going south. I am happy to hear you have a son now and I hope that he will be free from this cult. You never know about your wife, she may one day realize that it is all a lie and walk away. My husband nd I left together a year ago so we have supported each other. You mentioned that you see a therapist which I highly recommend but I hope you can get your wife to one with you. We were going to therapy first and it made us much stronger which then lead to our finding out TTATT. I wish you so much peace and happiness.
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A Cry for Help
by Thoughtless ini have been lurking here for months now, and i just decided to post here and actually interact with this community.
i have a very specific/unordinary life, so i will not divulge too much information to protect my privacy.
i am a baptized publisher who is under the age of 25 who attends college, and i do have responsiblities within the congregation.
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Aunt Fancy
Welcome Thoughtless, you have received a lot of great advise. I would take your time with everything you do in regards to the religion. We have been out for about a year and we have taken our time with every decision we have made and so far we have successfully faded. At first I felt I had to DA myself and that was part of the plan but the more we moved on I made the decision to fade because it is playing their game to DA. I would only do it now if I was called in for a meeting and I would just DA myself and not attend but that could always change depending on what they throw our way.
You are young and I admire you for going out there and getting your education, and that is the first thing you need to finish. I would not rock the boat too much until you have reached this very important goal. Your future depends on this education. In the mean time continue to make friends outside the religion so you have a support group. There is no need for anyone to know your business so give very little information to those that are in the religion.
Just take things one day at a time. You have your whole life ahead of you and if you play your cards right you can fade and hopefully help your brother see "the truth". My husband was a born in and spent 58 years of his life in it and I spent 30 years of my life. It always makes me happy to hear that a young person has woken up and they have an opportunity for a wonderful life without the control of this cult. Best wishes to you and I look forward to hearing how things are going for you.
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what scriptural support is there for commanding children to engage in the door to door work
by soft+gentle ini have just been going over the candace conti case and it struck me that one of the things i'd like to see come out of this case is that jehovahs witnesses stop involving children in the door to door work.
so what would you say to them to make them re-think this issue..
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Very interesting Terry.
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Bethel Layoffs: Know anyone (especially long-timers) who were laid off?
by Black Man inand what are they doing now?.
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Aunt Fancy
We know a brother that went to Bethel right out of HS and was set home at 56 years old. He never married and never had any great skills. He was a Bethel elder and he spoke a second language. He is special pioneering and working part time but I heard he lost that job. His parents are still alive so I am sure they help some and he has a sibling that may help too. I remember when I heard about it I thought it was just a bunch of BS and now we all k ow it was a lay off not that they needed them working in the field!! I would be so angry if I gave them that much of my life and them they got rid of me all the while they are still bringing young boys on to work!